The mindful person stays present by gathering energy with all five senses: taste, touch, smell, form and sound, to which we derive information from. It is an exchange. We see these senses externally and then receive them.
Human connection can be beautiful when experienced from this place of presence, mindfulness, experiencing all five senses.
Two people can be having a conversation and when one makes the choice of focusing in on one of those senses, the mind negates the others, negating the whole picture, blinding the subject. There is dissonance and a lack of love and kindness.
When recognized, we can harness it back in, opening back up our view of all five senses. And then there are those around us, that we care most about, that we give power to triggering us, causing for engagement instead of observation.
When the brain is triggered, we leave the now and enter an alternate reality of where this trigger was first created. Creating a deeper and deeper patterning of this trauma once had, it is felt so real every time. It is abstract because, it is not real.
At what ever point we are able to calm the acidic feelings within, there is opportunity for a step back and observation without judgement. It is only observation without judgement that will change this patterning. If the opportunity is not grabbed, than there is only space for blame of either individual or both. It is in forgiveness and compassion of both the individual and ourselves that allows us to move on.
Love and kindness is a state we all hold within. Triggers and patterns is something we all hold within. What they are about doesn't matter. A trigger is a trigger and is felt like just that. It is an obstacle we all share. As much as it can seem like it's not true, somewhere deep inside ALL of us, we share the capability of love and kindness. This is our true nature. This is reality. The rest is abstract and way less fun.